“MY DIVORCE STORY IS NOT MY FAILURE, IT IS MY SUCCESS.”
Divorce holds a lot of shame for people, it especially did for me.
I didn't want to share my experience with others for fear of being judged. For a long time, I saw myself as damaged goods that no guy would ever want to be with. Someone who made the choices I did…who let those experiences happen…for so long. How could one be so oblivious and stupid?
Ugh… We choose things because they're comfortable, because it's what we know, and we do it out of safety and protection. Life can be a bit of a d*ck sometimes, but in the end, it's our greatest teacher (and comedian) that has the best intentions. They need to get our attention somehow… we just have to be willing to listen and learn instead of ignoring our truth.
Here are a few things to remember when having compassion for yourself and your heartbreak story.
1. You are not a failure - If no one ever failed in life, how would we have space travel? cars that take us across country? cures to diseases and viruses? If there was no failure, success would never exist. We would never grow, progress and appreciated the things in life that happen in our favour. We would never learn powerful lessons that enable us to be better. If you're able to reframe failures as opportunities for growth and curiosity, it'll help make life a whole lot more exciting and enjoyable for y9u.
2. Your experiences help uncover your truth - I believe these life challenges are the universe telling us to “wake the f*ck up” and pay attention to your life. If divorce did not happen for me, I would never have learned the incredible power and independence I have as a woman. I would have never discovered the most intense love for myself and the adventure that I'm on. I would never have started this business. I would have continued to live half a life.
3. You have a chance to redesign yourself and your life. Holy hell. After my divorced I realized that I was a shell of a person. I had no real direction, goals, passion or purpose. After losing what I thought was my “ideal” life, I realized that I had the chance to create a new epic adventure, with a new plot line and heroine of the story, me.
How will you rewrite your story?
It's time to use your heartbreak story for good, not evil.